No restering casual hook ups

My personal ads are pretty much all the same: I’m a sexually charged woman in my 40’s interested in a casual, no-strings-attached regular lover. Obviously, no two men are alike, but for those in the same place I am, my personal ads seem to ignite something in particular types of men.On the contrary, I feel like a sputtering fish out of water because this whole dating scene seems very to me and doesn’t quite vibe with my 40ish single-mom-to-two-small-kids, relationship-oriented self. I get to abandon my yoga pants and let down my three-day-old ponytail and get all dolled up to go out a real date and drink martinis at some uber hip bar in LA. I want to go deep with someone if I’m going to be intimate with them.

When people are talking about finding casual sex, Adult Friend Finder is usually part of the conversation, and that’s because it’s a legend in this particular niche, having launched in 1996.

Every time my mother or a well-meaning friend says to me, “Don’t have any expectations” or “Just go out and have fun” I pump my I-Am-A-Strong-Independent-Woman fist in the air and exclaim, “YES! So if we’re going to truly connect, I can’t just mess around with you.

Call me overly-sensitive or someone who expects too much from people.

A drink out here and there would be an ideal complement to a relationship that is more sexual than a friend but less constricting than a traditional boyfriend/girlfriend. The majority of my potential suitors do not meet my standards—too young, too old, too skinny, too hairy, too creepy—but every time I place an ad, there are a few nuggets of gold. ” Rather, they are the guys who explain what appeals to them about a casual sexual relationship.

Out of town salesmen who’ve been on the road for years. They express how a purely sexual relationship with the right woman would be a dream come true for them. I want to be able to get along in and out of the bedroom. The ding, ding, ding from emails hitting my inbox become a slot machine jackpot.

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